"Do you want to talk about it?" Or, and this is more what Ilde intends to ask, does he not want to talk about it? She's not very good at the former (she's willing to try, but she's really inept with anyone's emotional drama, including her own), but she's excellent at respecting someone else's lack of interest in discussing what's upsetting them. 'Not asking' is a knack of hers.